Let’s Stop Shaming Ppl for Using Technology And Other Shiz

Yo can we stop pocket-watching.

And also having a hater-type soul.

I know humans compartmentalize. That’s how we survive.

But it would be awesome if we could normalize asking questions instead of jumping straight to weirdo assumptions?

Things We Need to Stop Shaming

Going to bed late
Unless it’s genuinely wrecking your health, then yes, please see an actual licensed professional, not Web/TT MD. lol.

Being online all the time
It’s 2026. Not 1008 BC. Being “offline” is a privilege.
That said, please decompress if you can :)

Night eating & snacking
Stop policing what people eat and at what hour they eat. Just be glad they’re even eating anything?
If someone’s clearly not eating or is distressed, support them with empathy, not judgment.

Example (in your own voice & tone - IMPORTANT DETAIL).

“Yo, I made you dinner—want some? I noticed you didn’t eat all day.”
Acts of Service. Love Language. That’s it.

Fast food
It’s literally engineered to be addictive.
I grew up on it. I love it. I know it’s bad. Do I GAF? no… lmfao I’m not an idiot I know it’s going to make me feel like crap.

It’s a comfort though. That’s why we all eat somewhat crappy food. That’s not objectively that good. It has “son mat” to it (meaning hand taste in Korean). It’s the soul and heart of the food. Or your fond, nostalgic memories attached to it.
If you must be a judger, I do also balance it with cardio, exercise, Brussels sprouts, and an ungodly amount of Korean namul. Let people live.

Wikipedia
I love Wikipedia. I’ve never donated. I’m sorry. I will. Eventually. maybe.
But let’s remember when educators clutched their pearls b/c they refused to adapt to technology.
Wikipedia hive <3 lmao rise upp!

Shaming in general
Some people still deserve to get checked though on some real shi. I said what I said.

Things We Maybe Need to Shame (A Little)

Being fake
Deeply cringe. Spiritually unsettling….. creepy vibes man. Like who are you genuinely?????????

Refusing therapy while being wildly unwell
Therapy is like dating…… you have to try a few. Many perhaps.
If you’re seeing zero progress? Re-evaluate. Please.

Being proudly uneducated
It’s not quirky. It’s lazy.
It’s 2026. Used bookstores exist…. Libraries exist. Credible media exists.
No excuses…… even if you’re dyslexic…. you can still learn.

Being “unpolitical”
I promise it’s not a scary word... If you’re privileged enough to opt out of politics in 2026…
That is your politics. Weird.

I’d rather you have a strong opinion than no opinion.
No opinion is giving complacency.

Start small. Apps. YouTube. Podcasts. Books.?????
There are so many entry points now>?!>??!??! GO

Calling countries “third world”
We’re begging you to update your vocabulary…….. language and perspective matters,,,,
Microaggressions aren’t subtle when you say them out loud. Or at least, you should realize that

Language matters
Words shape reality. Everyone’s messed up before, including moi!
But please. Read the room. <3

Telling me you “make kimchi” as a humble brag (if you’re white)
Okay?………
What response are you looking for exactly.

It def taste bad???? Liek ok…

Asking “What can I do?” to a POC
Pick up a book.
Google exists.???????
Do the work without outsourcing emotional labor.

Signed,
A very tired Korean Canadian lady